No. 2 No one can hurt you if you will not let.

I am thinking about my first post and I literally do not know what to write. I have a lot of thoughts and a lot of topics, but I am empty now. What to write? 

Currently, I am reading "A General Introduction to Psychoanalysis" by Sigmund Freud. So maybe something from the book? What if it was boring?

Illustration by Bianca Van Dijk

I also re-read Cialdini's "Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion". Maybe something from there? Hm.

Finally, I have decided. This is a very simple topic but very important, I think. No one can hurt you if you do not let. Easy to say. 

Some time ago, something changed inside me. This IS easy. Both your life and your time are valuable to you no matter what. Or not. Then you waste your time thinking about the situation, what someone said or did. How much time I personally wasted on such things! My exes, old friends or people I do not even remember.

I do not mind anymore. I simply do not have time for it. My time is valuable. My feelings and emotions are valuable. My energy is valuable. Would you give anyone $100 just because they said or did something? I do not think so. So why do you still give them your time? You will not take it back. 

When someone really wants to hurt you, this is not your problem. If you respond - they win. And we do not want them to win. But this is up to you. Will you let them?

Remember, your life and time must be the most precious for yourself. If you do not appreciate it, why should someone?